What do I talk about?

Honestly, this is a really common question. You may have been to therapy before, or you may not have, but either way it’s awkward talking to a new person and starting a new relationship with a therapist. So, let’s talk about the process!

When we talk on the phone to do our consult, this is a good time for us to decide if I am the best person to support you. I will ask you a bit more information about what is bringing you to therapy, and often I will talk a bit about my approach to therapy. This is a good time for you to ask any questions you have, either about therapy in general, my approach, online therapy, or payments. If we determine that we are a good fit, we will schedule our first session.

The first time we meet, this is when I will ask you a ton of questions to get a history of what is bothering you. I will ask about your childhood, the people in your life now, and other events that relate to what’s going on. By the end of this appointment, I like to have a plan for how we can move forward and some things we can focus on. You and I make that plan together.

In subsequent sessions, I will start the session by asking how your week has been since we last talked, and then we can focus on the thing that is most on your mind that day. Every session you and I collaborate to make sure that what we are doing feels good to you, and we are going in a good direction.


Okay, that sounds fine, but I’m still not sure about this online therapy thing. How does online therapy work?

Online therapy is an awesome way for us to meet face to face, without you having to commute to my office. If you have good internet and privacy, we are ready to get started!

You can use a computer, a tablet, or a phone for our sessions. Some people prefer using a computer, because it helps us make eye contact, but if a phone is what you have, that will work, too.

Once we schedule our appointment, you will receive two emails from me.

The first will come from Theranest, and that will be the invitation to do your intake paperwork, including informed consent, privacy policies, and a questionnaire to help me get to know you better. I ask that you fill out and submit the intake paperwork at least 24 hours in advance so I can take a look at it before we meet. If you’re not able to get to it, I will email you to reschedule.

The second email will be through “Securevideo”. This will be an invitation to our appointment. There will be a button for you to RSVP, and if you click “yes” I will know that you got the email. If you have never used Zoom before, you will be prompted to download it, which is super fast. When our appointment gets closer, you will get a reminder email, and there will be a button that states, “enter waiting room”. When you click this button, I will see that you are waiting for me (but I won’t be able to see your face, yet) and I will start the session.

Take a look at the Online Therapy page to read more and to find some research supporting the effectiveness of online therapy.

Because of licensing laws, I can only work with clients who are physically located in New Mexico, Virginia, Washinton DC, or in limited instances in other countries.


How long will I be in therapy? I just want to feel better now.

The quantity of sessions varies widely based on what is bringing you to therapy. Some people use therapy as long term self care, while other people use therapy to process a single challenging experience. Many people will notice that they are starting to feel some relief after 2-3 months, and for a lot of people, this is a good time to reduce frequency of sessions.

Click the button below to schedule a free consult so that we can make sure I’m a good fit for you before we get started. It’s also a good opportunity to ask any lingering questions.