The Therapy Process: Why It Works, and What to Expect

You’re here because you know it’s time to finally get some support.

You’ve noticed yourself repeating the same patterns again and again, and you can't shake the feeling that you're faking it. Everything you’ve achieved always feels like it's about to slip through your fingers.

YOU'RE TIRED OF HOLDING ON FOR DEAR LIFE.

You’re ready for something to change. So you’re thinking about starting therapy.

BUT WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?

If you are new to therapy—or if you’ve had therapists in the past who just didn’t feel like the right person for your needs—you may be feeling nervous or confused about how this all works.

Here are some common questions about therapy:

My problems seem overwhelming and it’s scary to think about them. How will talking to a therapist make a difference?

One way I can be helpful as your therapist is that I can break things down into small, manageable chunks. That way, tiny actions can lead to significant changes.

Another way I can help is by facilitating a perspective shift. In other words, you may find yourself seeing things differently in unexpected ways.

And one core piece of what makes therapy work, the “therapeutic relationship,” simply means this: as your therapist, I am truly invested in your well-being. I’ll be with you through the hard stuff and I will genuinely celebrate your successes.

I have never told anyone about what I’m dealing with because I know they will judge me or share my secret with others. What makes you someone I can trust with vulnerable emotions and thoughts?

First of all, I want you to know that I am legally and ethically bound to protect your privacy. We’ll talk more about that one-to-one before we get started on therapy sessions.

Second, I totally get how scary it can feel to share the most vulnerable parts of your experience with someone new. Therapy happens at your pace, and you’re in charge of how much to share right away.

I strive to offer a nonjudgmental space where you will always feel respected and heard. I accept my clients for who they are, as well as who they want to be.

Do you have an agenda for the sessions, or can I talk about what’s on my mind that day? What if you ask me something I don’t want to answer?

I will always follow your lead. Whatever is most important to you that day is what’s important to me. At times I may guide our work toward specific goals that we have discussed, but you are in charge of the session. If something feels too intense or uncomfortable in the moment, I want to know about it right away so that we can shift gears. It’s important to me that you feel safe and understood.

How does online therapy work? Who is eligible for online therapy with you?

Currently I am providing online therapy only for individuals who are residents of New Mexico or Virginia. Sessions will be held online using Zoom Secure Video software. It will be important for you to have reliable internet access in order to participate. Please visit the Online Therapy page to read more.

Do you make people do weird psychology techniques during sessions? How will I know the reason behind what we are doing?

My approach is collaborative, and we will make decisions together about how to proceed in the session. I work hard to communicate why I want to do specific exercises and what I think they might help with, and ultimately it’s your decision. You will always be able to say yes or no to anything I suggest. This is your therapy, and your voice matters in this process.

Benefits of Therapy with Rebecca Newkirk...

  • Ability to deepen your relationships and feel less alone.

  • Clearly seeing the patterns in your life and relationships that lead you to feel like you are always starting over.

  • Understanding why you've been feeling so invisible and how to be "seen" without feeling like a fraud.

  • Learning how to make decisions without being impulsive, or feeling paralyzed.

  • Feeling more confident, and more capable of creating change in your life.

Free Initial Consultation

I encourage you to take the opportunity to engage in a free 15 minute consultation with me.

THIS WAY WE CAN MAKE SURE WE’RE A GOOD FIT BEFORE WE GET STARTED.

If for any reason we decide not to work together, I’ll help you find someone who is appropriate for your needs.

The Initial Appointment

After the consultation, if we mutually agree to work together, we will schedule a 60 minute initial appointment. Before that first session, you will be invited to create a personal online portal where you will have access to all of your clinical forms. 

This initial session is where you I can respond to any questions you have. Next, I will ask you questions about your childhood, your family, any past experiences that you feel may be affecting you right now, and your current relationships and challenges. I ask a lot of questions. It’s important for me to really know you so that I can tailor your care to meet your needs.

TOGETHER, WE WILL IDENTIFY THE DIRECTION WE ARE GOING TO GO IN OUR NEXT SESSIONS AND WHAT ISSUES YOU WOULD LIKE TO FOCUS ON.

The number of sessions you decide to schedule is completely up to you, but typically we will schedule for a few weeks or months, depending on the complexity of your concerns.

Sessions Going Forward

In following sessions, we get to dive into the meat of your concerns and how these challenges are manifesting in your day-to-day life.

WE WILL EXPLORE TOGETHER WHAT IS AND IS NOT WORKING IN YOUR LIFE, AND WE WILL IDENTIFY BARRIERS THAT HAVE BEEN KEEPING YOU STUCK.

These sessions are also opportunities for us to do exercises to help you feel safer and more in control in your everyday life.

What Does It Cost?

Online Therapy is a “fee for service” program, meaning that you pay individually for each session. I will send you a text message through an application called IvyPay, which will gather your payment information securely.

Each session is $115.

How Do I Schedule a Session?

You can contact me here using the “Get Started” page, send an email to rebeccanewkirklcsw@itherapymail.com or call 1-888-242-9345.